Living In the Moment

Dad and Son 002

In all of our lives, we encounter moments in which we suddenly realize we’re never going to see someone again.

I had such a moment this week.

The oddest part about it was that the days leading up to this moment seemed so normal … so ordinary.   I went to work every day.  I did chores at home.  I went shopping for groceries.  I gassed up my car.  I ate meals.  I read.  I lived life with a casual nonchalance.

And while the clock kept on ticking unnoticed …

I thought he was on the mend.

I believed a corner had been turned.

I thought that now there would be plenty of time.

But then …

… suddenly …

… he wasn’t there anymore.

And I realized things would never be the same again.

 

And that the clocks are always ticking.

 


I love you, Dad.

 

 

46 comments

  1. Oh Biff! I am so sorry to read this, and especially so late 😦 😦 😦 Shame.on.me! While I was whining and getting your thoughtful support through Dad’s time at the hospital, you were mourning your own Dad, and I didn’t even know 😦 😦 😦 Aouch!

    My most sincere belated condolences, dear Big Bro. Billy is right, and I am sure your Dad left this world a proud father! Sending you a big box of warm hugs – use them whenever needed! xx

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    • It is quite all right, Sis. It is quite easy to miss things on WP because they sink so fast after posting them. And plus we all have lives that are full of distractions and obligations and pulls on our time and attentions. I quite understand.

      Thank you for the big box of warm hugs! I can definitely use them. I’m not even going to try to use them sparingly to try and make them last. I’ll just use the entire box all at once. 🙂

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  2. I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad, Biff. I can tell you that whether someone passes away suddenly, or after a lengthy illness, we’re still not as prepared as we think we are. Death is the most natural thing in the world and yet it feels so unnatural to have to say goodbye to someone we still want to spend time with.

    I’ll be praying that the upcoming weeks and months are filled with joyful memories and recollections, rather than dwelling on those final days. Hugs across the miles.

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    • Thank you so much, Lynda. You are so very right. I’ve had people in my life pass suddenly, and others after a lengthy illness, and in both cases I am still never prepared.

      Thank you for the prayers. I do appreciate them very much and they are helping. It gets a little easier each day to deal with his passing.

      Hugs back!

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    • Thank you, Linda. I think they were as peaceful as possible, given the circumstances. Fortunately, the end came quickly after he took a turn for the worse.

      And thank you for your wishes for my peace. I’m sure it will come someday. Time is a great at numbing our pain.

      Hugs back!

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  3. May the Lord be with you as you mourn, holding you close to Him.

    Intellectually we expect to outlive our parents. Emotionally we expect them to live forever. Take time to remember, be thankful for the time you did have together. Your father is so much a part of who you are, he will always be with you even if he is no longer present.

    This is not an easy thing to go through, prepared or not. It does eventually begin to feel better, even if it doesn’t appear like it ever will.

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    • Thank you so very much, Lorne. I do very much appreciate the words of comfort. You are so very right about expecting our parents to be there always. It’s so very hard when we realize that they won’t.

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  4. Sincere condolences Biff. I received a call from my Mom’s doctor on Thursday night warning me that she doesn’t have much longer. It’s so sad, and yet as much as I know it’s coming, I know that it will be a shock. ❤️

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